STUDI KASUS PENYESUAIAN PERNIKAHAN PASANGAN SUAMI ISTRI YANG BERLATAR BELAKANG ETNIS JAWA DAN ETNIS TIONGHOA
Abstract
A multi-ethnical marriage is a marriage that involves two different cultures or
more from either the husband or the wife. In a multi-ethnical marriage, the couple
need to adjust in their marriage life. This qualitative research focuses on a married
couple, Dani, who is Javanese and Lani, who is Chinese. They have been married for
four years. The purpose of this research is to identify the adjustment process of
couples with different ethnical backgrounds in the marriage life. This research uses a
case study method. Semi-structured interviews and participative observation methods
are used as the data aggregation method. The results of this research represent that
the married couple’s adjustment is hampered by the ethnocentric attitude that rises
from each individual. The married couple also experienced difficulties in financial
adjustments in the core family, and adjusting to the tradition and norms of the
extreme family of the partner. Couples with different ethnicities who are getting
married can learn the cultural values of their partners in order to minimize conflict in
marriage. The effort made by the married couple in resolving conflicts is by
maintaining their marriage vow, maintaining communication, and maintaining their
spiritual life in marriage.